6 Amazing Ways To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence
At some point everyone has a awkward moment or have been awkward in general. But being awkward is not always a bad thing. There are is ways to use your awkwardness and change it too confidence and that’s what we are going to talk about in this blog. Lets get into it
1.Don’t Stare
One of the easy ways to become awkward is staring at people too long. Usually its a good ideal to slowly look in another direction when the conversation topic is switching then look back when you reengaging in another topic.
When you do stare at people especially a women you want it to be a soul snatching stare (look at the picture below). Saying that you like what you see. That’s different for an awkward stare
If this is not a person you’re having a conversation with for example on a date.
Then do something that keeps you from staring too hard. Go check your phone or play a game on it too kill the awkward time.
Or the best thing to do is if there is a awkward silence just ask them a question. People love to talk about themselves. An since we are not taught to listen(I live in America) and mostly talk. If you are all ears to someone they will talk for days.
An you will appear to be charismatic because they will love to be around you because you are interested in their life and actually listen to them and let them speak.
2.Change Your Tonality
If you are ever in a conversation and it suddenly gets dry change the tone of your voice. Talking in a mono tone ABCD predictable pattern evetime you speak you will make people drown you out and become tone deaf or bored when you speak. An they will stop playing attention too you.
If you are excited for a part of the story get excited for that part. It will shock them and will keep the energy of the conversion spontaneous. Being interesting stop you from being awkward if you are talking to someone who is a bit interested in you.
Your energy will become contagious. Next thing you know the energy in the room is vibrant because of you. You will feed off this energy and become more confident and have better conversions.
3.Use Body Language
55% of all communication is non verbal body language. So if you want to learn how to be more confident when speaking most of your energy and effort should be here. You don’t want to come off awkward. You want people to think of you as confident before you open your mouth
You can do this but having a confident dominate stand.
When a man stands with their shoulders squared off and hips facing forward with hands down at the sides, it is a dominant stance. This means that the man is extremely confident in himself.
You don’t want to appear awkward and not confident before you even open your mouth. So you need to avoid the obvious signs of a awkward person.
Doing things like scratching your noise and touching your face. Being fidgeting makes people uncomfortable and makes them think that you’re not interested in them or sometimes going on. This the exact opposite of confidence so you want to avoid fidgeting and be calm and relax.
This blog post is about you but let me say that I also get nervous around people sometimes. Crowds even beautiful women. But no one will ever know why? Because I don’t show it in my body language I don’t get awkward and closed off when that anxious feeling comes. I keep my body relaxed and comfortable then my mind follows. An the situation always ends well.
The reason I’m telling you this is I want you too know that feeling of nervous and awkwardness is normal but don’t let it keep conquering you. You can change it.
4.Laugh
When it comes to being awkward one area most people get wrong is being too serious. Whether its speaking with a group of people or just making a mistake and everyone notice dont get embarrassed and make it a big deal.
If you walking in a mall and accidentally slip and start falling. Don’t get up and run away hoping no one seen you. That makes you look like you are embarrassed and confident men are never embarrassed we embrace every moment and very comfortable in our self.
So instead of getting up and running away if you see people laughing smile and laugh with them. Especially if this happens around a women you are trying to impress. She’ll definitely think you’re a very confident and charismatic person to not be ashamed and laugh at yourself falling.
Even when friends and co workers makes jokes about some embarrassing moment you had. Don’t get upset and mad about it. Laugh with them even add to it. When you are not embarrassed about things no tends to care and it makes you look super confident.
So the next time your friends bring up that story about how you was acting like you was about to die because you broke a finger. Laugh with them add and some humor too it by saying “385 people die a year because of finger injuries I could’ve died” (by the way I made that up so don’t google it). An that brings me to the next point.
5.Have Humor
Using humor is a super power and deserves a article on its own. Being funny will not only make you more confident but it will make you appear more charismatic to the people around you. An one of the best things about being awkward is that its easy to be funny because no one is excepting you to be funny away.
Use this too your advantage. I’m not saying you have to be a smart ass comedian like Pete Davidson but find a style that works for you. Let say you’re calling a co work or friend and their not answering the phone. So when they finally call you back your answer is “what if a robber had a gun to my head and you was the last call I could make. I would’ve been died.”
Humor makes you more comfortable to talk too and be around. It softness the conversion and people with good humor are thought to be more confident charismatic and charming.
I will give you a warning about using dark humor and making fun of people. When it comes to humor from a confident stand point you want to make yourself the joke. You don’t want to be look at as a bully or asshole and people who make fun of other people are usually assholes.
6.Be Yourself
A lot of times people come off awkward because there trying to fit in and be someone their not. Or trying too hard to come off as confident making you awkward instead. Just chill relax and be yourself its easier to be confident and charismatic around people you’re comfortable with because yall have things in common.
I don’t talk about my self much but I am a very confident and charismatic person(which is why I got this blog lol). But even me the “Charismatic King” can find myself feeling awkward when in environments that’s not for me. Its normal so don’t try to fit in a be a poser.
Same advice with women. I know this can be harder to do because you like her and you’re nervous but chill and relax be yourself. Being confident will only take you so far. If yall don’t vibe well together don’t force it or try to become the type of men she likes if its not you. That wont work either eventually she’ll find out the real you.
An I’m telling you this even if you think you’re weird most people will like the normal real you(still work on yourself) better than a fake Ricco Suave character you’re acting like.